A Brother's Remembrance
In a loving remembrance written by DeLanie's brother, Ralph Stancil, shared these personal reflections on his sister:
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DeLanie's children with Julius Nevell Stancil |
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Norma Ethel Stancil Moore June 1, 1921 Johnston, NC-Dec. 15, 2001 Rocky Mount, NC; Buried in Pineview Cemetery, Rocky Mount, NC |
George Arnold Stancil Dec. 20, 1922 Johnston, NC-July 14, 1983 Maryland; Buried in Montlawn Memorial Park, Raleigh, NC |
Lucy Reba Stancil House Nov. 14, 1925 Johnston, NC-Sept. 8, 2019 Greensboro, NC; Buried in Westminster Gardens in the Westminster Colonial Mausoleum in Greensboro, NC |
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DeLanie Ethel Stancil, daughter of George Ira and Eva Ann Mercer Stancil, was born on July 4, 1905, in Johnston County, North Carolina.
Her childhood on the farm was filled with both hard work, like growing tobacco and picking huckleberries, and memorable sibling moments, including a near-burial orchestrated by her older siblings and the usual childhood squabbles.
Delanie was almost buried alive, according to her older brother Emmette, who was under the influence of his older sister Effie, when he began covering her with dirt. Effie was the oldest child of Eva and George Stancil. Effie told Emmette to come behind the smoke house but by the time their Pa came along, the words he heard were from Emmette saying. “Effie, bury Delanie, bury Delanie.” Of course their Pa put a stop to this!
When Delanie was about 6, she looked after Ralph, 4, and Rachel, 2. Her mother and Effie, age 10 and Emmette age 8 worked in the fields.
She attended the Woodard School, where her penmanship was exceptional, and later learned to crochet and play the organ. DeLanie had several young sweethearts before meeting Julius Nevell Stancil.
Nevell Stancil was born on November 9, 1901, in the Bethany Community of Johnston County, North Carolina, the son of W. Debro and Lucy Broadwell Stancil. His father was a well-respected minister in the Johnston Baptist Association. Nevell was one of seven children. His early life was marked by his mother leaving him and his brothers in the care of their great-uncle and aunt, Jim and Elizabeth Stancil, who raised them. Debro Stancil, Nevell's father, was a self-taught "Corn Field Preacher," farming during the week and preaching on Sundays.
Delanie and Nevell's paths crossed after a funeral in 1918. Romance blossomed quickly between the two, even though Delanie was only 14 and Nevell was 17. Despite some initial reservations from DeLanie's father due to her young age, Nevell began courting her regularly.
On December 21, 1919, DeLanie, at the age of 14 ½, married the 18-year-old Julius Nevell Stancil at the Kenly Church Parsonage. They were driven there by Nevell’s father, Debro Stancil. DeLanie wore a suit made by her sister Effie. After the ceremony, they visited DeLanie’s ailing grandfather before spending their first night with Nevell’s parents.
In the early years of their marriage, DeLanie and Nevell lived with Debro and Lucy. They later rented and then farmed their own land, eventually settling on a farm given to them by Debro, where they built a house. DeLanie was a devoted wife and a good cook, often hosting family for Sunday dinners.
Nevell, after initially farming, felt a calling to follow in his father’s footsteps and became a Missionary Baptist Preacher. He earned his credentials through Wake Forest Divinity School, teaching himself to type to manage his correspondence. He preached his trial sermon in 1923 and served at various churches while continuing to farm part-time.
Nevell’s ministry took them to several churches in Wake, Nash, Wayne, Wilson, and Johnston counties. He served as pastor of Central Baptist Church near Wendell for about 19 years, Lees Chapel near Middlesex for approximately 20 years, and Calvary Baptist Church in Rocky Mount for 21 years, among others. While in Rocky Mount, he was the vice president of the Rocky Mount Ministerial Association. The family lived in a rented house on Nashville Road, and in 1949, they tragically lost their new car in a suspicious fire.
DeLanie and Nevell had three children: Norma Ethel, born June 1, 1921; George Arnold, born December 20, 1922; and Lucy Reba, born November 14, 1925.
Delanie’s Pa died October 23, 1935. In his will, he left the farm to Ralph. He would have to pay the other heirs for it. Ralph wanted to give the farm back to his mother to settle the Estate. Delanie supported Ralph and wrote to him telling him it was OK with her to give it back to their Mother. The value of the farm in 1935 was $20,000.
A loved one from us is gone,
A voice we loved is still,
A place is vacant in our home
That never can be filled.
He is gone, but not forgotten,
Never will his memory fade,
Sweetest thoughts will ever linger
Around the grave where he was laid.
In the 1950s, while Nevell was the pastor at Calvary Baptist Church in Rocky Mount, DeLanie often hosted her brother Ralph and his family for summer dinners during the annual Stancil reunion.
After retiring from full-time ministry, Nevell and DeLanie built a brick house in Middlesex, NC. However, Nevell’s health began to decline. He collapsed on Christmas of 1961 and was hospitalized.
Rev. Julius Nevell Stancil passed away on February 1, 1962, at the age of 60, due to a heart attack. His funeral was held at the Selma Missionary Baptist Church, and he was buried in Park View Cemetery in Rocky Mount. He was the pastor of Live Oak and Pauline Baptist Churches in the Johnston Association at the time of his death. News of his passing was met with great respect in the community, with hundreds attending his funeral.
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DeLanie continued to live in their Middlesex home. She was a devoted mother and grandmother, making granny square Afghans for her grandchildren in her later years.
In her memory of her mother, written in 1988, DeLanie expressed the enduring nature of a mother's love.
When I reach my home eternal,
Reach that city bright and fair,
When I stand among the angels
Will my mother know me there?
Yes, I know that she will know me
In those mansions bright and fair,
For mother's love will never forget me
And I'm sure she will know me there.
Around 1990, DeLanie moved into a nursing home in Zebulon, NC, where she remained for six years. Despite being a private person, she always appreciated visits from family.
DeLanie Ethel Stancil passed away on March 7, 1996. She was dressed by her sister Hilda for her funeral and was buried next to Nevell in Pine View Cemetery in Rocky Mount, NC. She is remembered for her devotion to her family and her quiet strength.
— Renn Stancil Hinton, daughter of George Ralph Stancil
In a loving remembrance written by DeLanie's brother, Ralph Stancil, shared these personal reflections on his sister: